DRAMA!!!!!!

OK so when I told him I was coming to Dublin, my friend Mick (old friend of Chantal and Dave) said I could stay in his room, since he sleeps in his gfs room. Initially he said two weeks, then he changed it to 'no time limit', since I was supposed to go pick cherries in mid-november (which most likely won't happen cuz he has enough pickers). HOWEVER I think he forgot to mention this to his housemates (he lives with his gf and 3 other girls). No worries, he's a man and forgets the important stuff LOL ;) we're still good.
I arrive and everything's peachy cuz 2 of the girls are away. 4 days after my arrival, Bee comes back. She is bubbly, loud, free-spirited, speaks her mind, talkative, enjoys her drinks, and works hard, long hours with an event company. Sound familiar? Then a week after I arrive, JoJo comes back (she was travelling Europe). I am having trouble keeping my spirits up since I can't find a job, haven't fully dealt with my breakup/misti's death/moving to OZ so quickly, etc so I'm a bit more negative than usual. Not the best impression to give people who don't know me, I understand, but I keep trying to stay positive and interact with the ladies as much as possible to try and get to know them. I do dishes, buy things for the house, and when I'm there during the day I look for jobs online (they all work so they're not home).
WELL on Wednesday I called in sick to work (kitchen prep I was helping a kosher catering company with for a few days) because I pulled my back the night before, at the end of my 13 and a half hour shift (having worked 9 and a half hours the day before). My body is used to sitting at a desk, not standing in one position hunched over a cutting board/dicer/etc so I get why it happened; it's happened before. I was scheduled to work the Jewish holidays on Thursday night and Friday so I figured those where more important, and to rest on Wednesday. I called from Deb's (Mick's gf) phone since mine had very little credit left, and started in the kitchen then went upstairs, since service is terrible in sections of the house. Yes, I speak too loudly, especially when on the phone and the person on the other end can't hear because I keep cutting out due to reception issues. Ok so that's done i retire to my room for a bit, then head downstairs to the living room to look for jobs on Gumtree. The temp agency rings asking if I could work that day, unfortunately I can't. They ring back later with a job for next week! I take the calls in the living room, then move outside since Bee sleeps on the first floor of the house (beside the living room, to which I had closed the door). The phone I have is Australia was a free phone given to me by my lovely cousin Nancy, but it's just a basic, shitty phone, so yah I don't know if people can hear me unless I speak a bit louder than usual, so that's my fault. After I get the job offer, I decide to go see if Bee wants to go to the beach (she had mentioned on her fb if anyone wanted to go). I had heard her talking earlier so I figured it was 11:30am and she was awake. I knock quietly on her door (that's not closed), and I hear, "fuck off!"
"Oh! Sorry!" I replied, stunned.
The next ten minutes I'm trying to rack my brain on what I may have done to piss her off so much, and I can't think of anything (because I'm a self-obsessed asshole, apparently) but I know quite well to stay out of her way so I'm in the kitchen putting stuff away, then up in my room. I hear loud stomping and then the front door slams. At this point I'm wondering WTF her problem is but don't worry I'll find out soon enough!!!!! She comes back maybe ten minutes later (and by this point I have sent her a pm apologising for whatever I've done and to please let me know but that I'll stay out of her way at the house) and this is the exchange, to the best of my recollection:

"I don't know who you think you are! You are the loudest person I have EVER met! You have no respect for other people! You're selfish! The worst part is, I don't think anyone's ever told you, so you probably have no idea! You live here, don't pay rent or bills, use everything in the house, eat people's food, drink people's alcohol, and I've HAD IT!!!! I am a person that speaks her mind and I'm telling you to find a new place to live. Mick said you'd be here for 2 weeks but I see no sign of you trying to get a place. I want my life back!!!!!! I am a positive person but I can't hear you bitch about one more thing anymore you are too negative!!! We all have shit going on in our lives! I work 12 hours a day but you don't hear me complaining! Deb and Mick are my friends so I haven't said anything but enough is enough! I don't think you recognise how nice they are! I suggest you go down the road to the Victoria hotel and look for a room because I've had it with you!" etc

................my word!
But let's clarify a few things, shall we? I won't have my good name besmirched by some bitch who doesn't even KNOW me!

1. I have my own food, I do my own groceries. I knew that it was a short-term arrangement, so I don't have as much food as someone who lives there PERMANENTLY, but rest assured I have been buying groceries. Yes, Mick and Deb have been very gracious in inviting me to join in a few meals with them (mostly on weekends), and I agree and always buy food to be a part of the meals! Is that any concern of anyone else?? No. Mind yer biznus. The first night Bee met me was for thanksgiving, and Mick and Deb thawed 2 of their chickens and since I was the only one home I made the dinner (except the mashed potatoes, which Deb made when she came home). My contribution to that first night she met me??: I bought all the vegetables (carrots, sweet potatoes, parsnips, onions, and zucchini), prepared them, roasted them, bought stuffing and gravy, prepared those items, made a huge salad (2 huge bowls worth) using ingredients that I had bought, got the chickens in the oven AND did all the dishes from the previous day, all before anyone came home from work. No worries, it's my holiday, I don't mind doing the work! It's like a thank you for letting me stay here, I'm happy to do it :) so THAT was piss me off moment number one of bee's rant.


2. I do not drink people's alcohol!! I bought 2 bottles of liquor at duty free that we (Mick, Deb, Josephine (HER house, btw, since she's been there the longest) and I) drank a bottle of the first weekend I was there, and I have bought wine and beer that I have shared with Mick and Deb, just as they have shared beer, wine, and cider with me. I also enjoyed wine that one of their friends brought over for Canadian thanksgiving. But my theory is: if you don't want me to drink it, don't offer it to me!!!!!! Have you MET me??? If there's a bargain/free shit happening I will be all over that! But I'm respectful and if it doesn't belong to me I won't take it, especially not without asking first. I was raised properly, thankyouverymuch.


3. since even BEFORE getting here, I have offered to help with rent. Repeatedly Mick has said no (maybe because he's too nice, I don't know).


4. Bee just got out of a bad relationship. She still works with her ex, who owes her a bunch of money and refuses to pay. I think he was mentally/emotionally abusive as well. SO I didn't take this rant TOO personally (I mean of course I took it personally, I'm a sensitive person!) because what she did, in therapy terms, is called 'projecting'. She can't/won't deal with her own issues in a safe, positive manner so she goes off on someone she doesn't know. It's happened to me before; doesn't mean it's right. Also: she probably sees a bit of herself in me (see description above), doesn't like those aspects of herself therefore takes it out on me, and there is a term to describe that as well, but I don't know it. When you meet someone similar to you, you either like them or you don't, usually right away. well now i can safely say the feeling is mutual :P
   

ANYWAY she had said that she had her say and hopefully things could move forward and I told her that I would stay out of her way and work on her criticisms (in so many words) and I had no plan to mention it to Mick and Deb. BUT THEN I came in that night at dinner time, warmed up my rice in the microwave, and took it upstairs to my room. Mick and Deb come a-knockin 10/15 min later and Mick said, "so we heard you and Bee had a run-in today" ..........That's not exactly how I would describe it, Ricky!!!!! "so yeah the house is pretty full, so...." no worries I'm already looking for a place to live, was my reply, and then I was on Gumtree looking for places. They wanted to make sure I was ok, I wasn't, but thats not their problem. They offered to help with the move, so that helped me :)

I hold nothing against Mick, and we're still good but I was naive to think I could stay there for longer than 2 weeks... Nothing in this beautiful life is free, there is always some cost, and unfortunately I have to pay rent now :/ at least I'll have some money coming in so it won't be so bad, but I hope I get a real job soon!! I just can't wait to go back to the house to visit and chill out and rub it in that bitch's face that I'm still good with MY friends and that she can't break me. (i did last night for the rugby world cup final. didn't really talk much to her, since i don't have anything to say, and yah i find her a bit annoying LOL)
There's a lot of room-shares out there, and some are frikken expensive! Like, with no reason to be. $180 a week to share a small room with another girl? In a tiny apartment with 3 other people? Noooooo thank you

UPDATE I found a place! My own room, $135/wk all in, north Melbourne area so good transit, not too far from CBD (downtown). It's an old house, protected by the government (heritage site!), I have a single bed, a wardrobe, a little desk and a chair, there's wireless in the house, there are 5 others (2 doctors, a guy doing his masters in botany, and 2 other students), and I have my own private balcony!!!!!! :D
So things are looking up. I'm hopefully getting a contract at the airport promoting absolute's new vodka, so keep your fingers crossed for me.

it's late, i work tomorrow (all this week! more updates to come i promise!) so it's beddy-bye for me. much love xoxoxo